How do you deal with those stressful situations?

No matter how well you train your brain to be in control, it often behave in a very different way when you are under stress. We can go into meltdown, which means we are unable to function properly for a certain time. Our mind blanks out and we cannot think straight.

For some people this kind of feeling goes on for far too long, and they find themselves unable to cope with everyday situations, like work and home life. They only seem able to think of the stressful situation, going from emotion to emotion like sadness, anger, desperation and so on and so on.

For others, they seem to be able to put the stress to one side and get on with their day to day jobs and social situations. This does not mean they are better in any way than us, and nor does it mean we are wimps if we are unable to cope.

What it does mean is that we have to find some other coping strategies to deal with stress or it will deal with us in a way that is most unsuitable, which then leads to depression.

If you are under major stress right now, see if any of the ways I suggest help you.

By all means talk to people, but do your very best to talk of other things rather than keep going over the stressful situation. They may not be able to help you with the stress, but they can listen to you and maybe even take your mind of the stress for a short while. Laughter is good even in the face of adversity. Laughter was very important during the war, or people would have gone under.

If you keep talking about the stress your friends and family will get fed up with you talking about the same thing, especially if you are not prepared to do anything about it in terms of you changing some strategies.

If you don't feel like talking to friends do your level best to keep in touch with them, even if it is a text to say you are glad they are your friends but you need time to think things through. If you don't keep in touch, your friends may think you don't want them anymore and they may not be there when you do need them. They will understand providing you let them know you still need them in your life.

Go and see a therapist. They are non judgmental and impartial, and will help you to deal with stressful situations. Any good therapist will not allow you to keep talking about the stress as that will just re-enforce it even more. Instead, a good therapist will help you with coping strategies. If they don't, stop going and find another therapist. Talk to them on the phone before making an appointment and ask specifically how they will help you.

Go for long walks on the beach if you can and let the wind blow through your hair. If it helps, get angry on the walk, but when you turn around make sure you have some good thoughts and maybe a few smiles on the way back. (Think of all the people you love and who are good to you)

Do some different things if you can, no matter how small they are.

Give yourself a self pity moment during the day or evening, and then stop and get on with other things.

These suggestions are helpful to many people. Let them help you.