When people just decided to get fit and lose weight overnight, they often lose the motivation rather than the weight.
Planning is the most important part of making changes. You wouldn't move house overnight without plenty of planning that has gone into the idea would you?
First of all is has to be a pleasurable experience. No point in starting if you already sigh with the thought of having to lose weight. Don't even try if that is how you feel.
You have heard of the pain and pleasure principal perhaps? Well the idea of being fit and healthy has to be the pleasure principal.
Ask yourself these questions:
What benefits will be there in being fitter?
What results will you see for the effort you put into it?
How will you feel when your clothes are looser?
How much effort are you prepared to put into it?
If you have answered positively, then continue.
Planning for positive results will help you to be successful
Monday, 31 December 2012
Monday, 17 December 2012
Mobile phone addiction
I had never heard of the medical term for mobile phone addiction, and I guess you din't either, as very few people looked at my blog Nomophobia, but that is what it is called! Who comes up with these names. I guess I would have used what most people would recognise, mobilephobia.
It means fear of being without your phone, and it is easy to get sucked into thinking you need your mobile with you day and night, alone or with others.
It is not funny being with someone who is texting, while you are sitting there like a dummy.
It is addictive though, and can mess up your head and cause great anxieties.
Don't believe me? Try leaving your phone switched off for the next six hours, and notice if you feel anxious or not. If you don't, great, you don't suffer with Nomophobia. If you do, well ..........
It means fear of being without your phone, and it is easy to get sucked into thinking you need your mobile with you day and night, alone or with others.
It is not funny being with someone who is texting, while you are sitting there like a dummy.
It is addictive though, and can mess up your head and cause great anxieties.
Don't believe me? Try leaving your phone switched off for the next six hours, and notice if you feel anxious or not. If you don't, great, you don't suffer with Nomophobia. If you do, well ..........
Monday, 10 December 2012
How do you overcome fear of failure?
Fear of failure is probably one of the most common reasons why people procrastinate.
We all encounter inevitable set backs and rejections, but how do we overcome that overwhelming fear of something going wrong which then stops us doing what we really want to do?
If we have a script in our head that says, 'whats the point of doing anything when I know it will go wrong', then it is more than likely we will fail if we do it.
If we think of all the highly successful people, the inventors, the scientists et al, then we must know that they had to fail many times before they achieved success.
My own personal theory about fear of failure is that we learn it at school. Not only teachers who may have been cross with us or ridiculed us if we got things wrong, but our peer groups who may have laughed at us.
How many people do you know who have had failures in life, but have bounced back and had successes? Not just professionally but personally successes?
I wonder what they told themselves when things did not work out well or they encountered setbacks and rejections?
In sales, I learned that no, does not necessarily mean never, and so if I was rejected, I just kept going, because maybe I could turn it into a yea at some point.
How many people take it really personally when someone says no? Most of us I suspect.
And another thing, how on earth do X Factor contestants get over being rejected. We often hear them say they will not let it put them off, but I wonder how true that is.
We all encounter inevitable set backs and rejections, but how do we overcome that overwhelming fear of something going wrong which then stops us doing what we really want to do?
If we have a script in our head that says, 'whats the point of doing anything when I know it will go wrong', then it is more than likely we will fail if we do it.
If we think of all the highly successful people, the inventors, the scientists et al, then we must know that they had to fail many times before they achieved success.
My own personal theory about fear of failure is that we learn it at school. Not only teachers who may have been cross with us or ridiculed us if we got things wrong, but our peer groups who may have laughed at us.
How many people do you know who have had failures in life, but have bounced back and had successes? Not just professionally but personally successes?
I wonder what they told themselves when things did not work out well or they encountered setbacks and rejections?
In sales, I learned that no, does not necessarily mean never, and so if I was rejected, I just kept going, because maybe I could turn it into a yea at some point.
How many people take it really personally when someone says no? Most of us I suspect.
And another thing, how on earth do X Factor contestants get over being rejected. We often hear them say they will not let it put them off, but I wonder how true that is.
Do you suffer with Nomophobia?
Nomophobia is a fear of being without a mobile phone.
How do you know if you have got Nomophobia?
Do you:
Worry if you have not got your mobile at hand or within sight and sound?
Keep it on during the night and respond to messages during your normal sleep time?
Panic if you think you have lost your phone?
Panic if you think it has broken or not working?
Feel upset if people don't respond quickly to your texts/emails/whatsapp, or BBM?
If you do, then you need to have some help to control it.
How do you know if you have got Nomophobia?
Do you:
Worry if you have not got your mobile at hand or within sight and sound?
Keep it on during the night and respond to messages during your normal sleep time?
Panic if you think you have lost your phone?
Panic if you think it has broken or not working?
Feel upset if people don't respond quickly to your texts/emails/whatsapp, or BBM?
If you do, then you need to have some help to control it.
Tuesday, 4 December 2012
Loneliness
Loneliness does not mean you are alone. It can mean that even with a group of people, you feel a bit lost and lonely. There are plenty of reasons that make us feel lonely.
Seeing everyone having fun, but we feel down and depressed so cannot join in.
Missing someone special who either cannot be with you or chooses not to be with you.
Unresolved issues with people that constantly seem to be in our upper mind.
Not feeling good enough to join in with the fun.
Being afraid of letting go and casting off inhibitions.
Worrying what others think of you.
Anger and resentment of those having fun.
Guilty that you should not be enjoying yourself.
The list can go on, but it does not always have to be this way.
Sometimes just throwing caution to the wind and letting yourself go is a good thing.
Seeing everyone having fun, but we feel down and depressed so cannot join in.
Missing someone special who either cannot be with you or chooses not to be with you.
Unresolved issues with people that constantly seem to be in our upper mind.
Not feeling good enough to join in with the fun.
Being afraid of letting go and casting off inhibitions.
Worrying what others think of you.
Anger and resentment of those having fun.
Guilty that you should not be enjoying yourself.
The list can go on, but it does not always have to be this way.
Sometimes just throwing caution to the wind and letting yourself go is a good thing.
Parties
As we have been spending a lot of time in London, it was great to be invited to a Christmas do.
What I liked most about it was that everyone was out to have a great time and the singing and dancing started straight away even during the first course of the meal.
I reflected later how much fun I had and how good it made me feel to watch others having a good time. It must affect us at a molecular level.
I thought about some people who don't join in the spirit of things and deny themselves that feel good feeling. Or others who seem to have to drink copious amounts of alcohol before they feel confident to join in with the fun.
If this is you, then you may want to consider whether or not you just enjoy drinking, and could easily have a good time without it, or whether you lack in confidence and alcohol makes you feel more confident because you lose your inhibitions.
It's quite natural for younger people to have a need to drink to forget their troubles, but if you can't have a good time without it, then you may want to ask yourself why.
What I liked most about it was that everyone was out to have a great time and the singing and dancing started straight away even during the first course of the meal.
I reflected later how much fun I had and how good it made me feel to watch others having a good time. It must affect us at a molecular level.
I thought about some people who don't join in the spirit of things and deny themselves that feel good feeling. Or others who seem to have to drink copious amounts of alcohol before they feel confident to join in with the fun.
If this is you, then you may want to consider whether or not you just enjoy drinking, and could easily have a good time without it, or whether you lack in confidence and alcohol makes you feel more confident because you lose your inhibitions.
It's quite natural for younger people to have a need to drink to forget their troubles, but if you can't have a good time without it, then you may want to ask yourself why.
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