Many people, when asked how they would like to be, say 'happy'. What does happiness mean to you?
Having lots of money does not necessarily create happiness so they say, but I expect there are a lot of rich people who would say they are happy. There are some rich people out there who look very miserable. Is inner happiness more important than wealth?
I have some ideas of how we can create inner happiness, and it is all to do with the way you think. It is quite easy to be miserable, it takes mere seconds to create bad pictures and thoughts in our head, and there you go, the recipe for unhappiness. We can't always be happy. Life throws things at us that can cause us to feel unhappy, but it depends on how long you want that unhappiness to last. Some people make a career out of being and staying unhappy. Whether it serves a purpose or not I don't know. Some people make it their business to do their best to be happy no matter what is going on around them.
I have some tips on how to stay happy. We have a right to reject the idea of working to be happy, and a right to do our best to be happy.
1 When you wake up each day, rather than let your mind control you with miserable thoughts, think of something immediately that is a good thought, something funny, or really pleasant. Keep your mind focused on that thought for as long as you can
2 If something bad happens to you, tell yourself that it will pass. Everything does pass. Only allow yourself a certain amount of time to dwell on whatever it is and then get on with life
3 Each day, think of all the good things you have done in life
4 Do your best to make someone else happy. A kind word, something you give them, or just smiling and looking friendly
5 Think of all the good things that people have done for you, and not just recently, but as far back as you can recall. You may not even be in contact any more with these people, but they did something good for you at some time in your life
6 Imagine only for a moment what would happen to your thoughts if you did not have the people you love most in your life, and then feel happy that they are in your life
7 Get involved with people who are genuinely happy. Stay away from doom and gloom people, they bring you down
8 If you have to mix with doom and gloomers, keep changing the subject to happier things
9 Stop reading newspapers. They make you feel depressed or get you to feel mad about the world
10 If you really want to know what goes on in the world, do some charity work or become involved with people less fortunate than yourself
You have control of how your mind works despite the fact you may not think so. If you really cannot do this for yourself, find a good NLPer and hypnotherapist, and they will gladly show you how to do it. If they look unhappy themselves, find someone else who has learned to run their mind the right way
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