I had the unfortunate day on a workshop with Mr Knowitall. The course was about sexual problems that people often encounter, and Mr K was a delegate on the course but was also acting as self appointed co trainer. He started off immediately telling the trainers that what they were training was not good enough and that he had been in the business for 25 years so must know more than them. he continued in the same vein despite me asking him what his point was. I even tried the NLP approach of staying in rapport with someone who you disagree with, but that did not work really. I asked him if he had studied NLP and naturally he said he read all the books on it but they were rubbish and that one of the NLP had committed suicide. I mentioned the founders of NLP and he said, 'yes that one' He was referring to Richard Bandler. Interesting I said, I was on one of his course last October, and he was fit and well then!
Eventually after lunch I could not contain my frustration any longer and told him he was spoiling my day and that although he was entitled to his opinions, he had given most of them, and could he keep his opinions to himself now.
I do wish more people would speak up when this kind of situation happens. Usually, unless the trainer takes over, delegates sit quietly fuming and saying nothing until later. Mr K would be the very last person I would go to as I feel sure that he would be telling his clients how wrong they are and that they must do things his way. Frightening to think that someone like him would be trying to help others.
Tuesday, 13 May 2008
Thursday, 8 May 2008
What's the difference?
What is the difference between a hypnotherapist and a hypnotist?
A hypnotist will make suggestions to the client and if those suggestions are acceptable, the client will find themselves doing that behaviour. The thing is, often as not these suggestions wear off over a period of time because there may be other things that get in the way of the suggestions working long term, such as low self-esteem, lack of confidence or lack of belief on ones self. If you don't really believe you are worth it or deserve success, whatever success would mean to you, then suggestion alone will never work long term.
A hypnotherapist will be using all kinds of different techniques that will help you to reprogramme your mind in the way you want it to be. NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming is really a good way to make the changes that are necessary.
A hypnotherapist would like to hear your story and then develop ways of helping you to move on.
I use hypnosis all the time, not surprisingly you might add, but there are some hypnotherapists who don't use it often enough. They may do too much talking, and the conscious mind is often not willing to change. It is the unconscious mind that can make profound changes in the way you think, feel and behave.
If you prefer to talk and have counseling, then of course that is up to you, but if you want to make some positive changes quickly, then hypnosis can be the most beneficial thing for you.
When looking for a therapist, ask as many questions as you can. You want to know that they have been trained to a certain standard of course, and if there is an outside accreditation that they have. Not just the training schools own accreditation. You want to know how they can help you, and you know, that just talking to someone can give you an idea of how they are going to be with you. If they sounds brusque, or as if they are not really interested in you, just interested in you becoming a client. You want to know that the time and money you spend is worth it.
Some people spend more time finding a good hairdresser than they do a therapist. Of course word of mouth is usually a good recommendation, but like restaurants, one mans meat is another mans poison, so even if you do have a recommendation, use the same rules. Does the therapist sound like the sort of person you would want to visit and talk to? Have they got a photo on their web site, so you can see what they look like before you call them? Do they reassure you that they can help you?
A hypnotist will make suggestions to the client and if those suggestions are acceptable, the client will find themselves doing that behaviour. The thing is, often as not these suggestions wear off over a period of time because there may be other things that get in the way of the suggestions working long term, such as low self-esteem, lack of confidence or lack of belief on ones self. If you don't really believe you are worth it or deserve success, whatever success would mean to you, then suggestion alone will never work long term.
A hypnotherapist will be using all kinds of different techniques that will help you to reprogramme your mind in the way you want it to be. NLP Neuro Linguistic Programming is really a good way to make the changes that are necessary.
A hypnotherapist would like to hear your story and then develop ways of helping you to move on.
I use hypnosis all the time, not surprisingly you might add, but there are some hypnotherapists who don't use it often enough. They may do too much talking, and the conscious mind is often not willing to change. It is the unconscious mind that can make profound changes in the way you think, feel and behave.
If you prefer to talk and have counseling, then of course that is up to you, but if you want to make some positive changes quickly, then hypnosis can be the most beneficial thing for you.
When looking for a therapist, ask as many questions as you can. You want to know that they have been trained to a certain standard of course, and if there is an outside accreditation that they have. Not just the training schools own accreditation. You want to know how they can help you, and you know, that just talking to someone can give you an idea of how they are going to be with you. If they sounds brusque, or as if they are not really interested in you, just interested in you becoming a client. You want to know that the time and money you spend is worth it.
Some people spend more time finding a good hairdresser than they do a therapist. Of course word of mouth is usually a good recommendation, but like restaurants, one mans meat is another mans poison, so even if you do have a recommendation, use the same rules. Does the therapist sound like the sort of person you would want to visit and talk to? Have they got a photo on their web site, so you can see what they look like before you call them? Do they reassure you that they can help you?
What exactly is hypnosis?
Despite the number of TV shows with people on them being hypnotised, and the press often talking about it more and more favorably, people still wonder, and perhaps feel slightly in awe of the thought of being hypnotised. They more or less know that a hypnotherapist will not make you do daft things, although I do tell my clients that if I get bored I may get them to do daft things!
It is one of those things that is obviously not a conscious thing, so we can be wary of what may happen when in hypnosis. The idea of being 'under' hypnosis can make people think they should be unconscious when in hypnosis and despite what you see when stage hypnotists get people into trance and they look as thought they are asleep or unconscious, it is not true, you are neither asleep or unconscious. The hypnotist may put the head down on the subject to make them look asleep, or the subject themselves may feel more comfortable putting their head in a sleep kind of position. I experienced stage hypnosis many many moons ago and I did think that I had to be asleep so went along with the suggestion.
Thing is, you just really feel relaxed but daydreamy like, or for some people they just listening to what is being said.
Is it that some people would like to feel unconscious, that they find life difficult and don't know how to make changes, so would like someone else to do it for them whilst they are unconscious?
Slimmers would often like to be put into an unconscious state for a few weeks and wake up again slim. And all because they don't really want to work at getting slim, same as working at solving your own problems is difficult.
I came into hypnosis purely by chance. Sometimes we have an illness that cannot be identified or diagnosed conventionally. That happened to me and I was getting a little more than fed up with n ot knowing what was wrong with me. Sure I had stress in my life, who doesn't, but i had coped before and could not understand why my body appeared to be letting me down, and without any obvious reason or cause. If there had been a reason, I could have taken medication and got well, and let the doctors sort me out. Now with no diagnosis, I had to start to think about what i could do to help myself.
I do like to face up to things in life, always have. I will never run away from conflict, although like most would rather have a easy life with less worry. So, I faced up to the fact that although I did not have some dreadful disease or terminal illness, I was still ill and needed some help.
Rather than just go to one person, I thought more holistically about my life and what I thought I needed the most first. If my body was not behaving well, then i must take responsibility and find out how it could work better. I went to a herbalist and that was the beginning of the change in my life. Little did I know that after detoxing and getting rid of anything in my body that may be causing problems, I would be embarking on a new career in my life, one that would prove to be the most fulfilling, rewarding and exciting.
It so happened that a leaflet from a book club came through the door and one of the books was about self-hypnosis. I ordered it straight away and when it arrived could not put it down. I wanted to know what it felt like to go into trance, how I could learn to relax, and that is what I did. I did see a hypnotherapist and sorted out all the baggage from the past, which then freed my mind. Hard to explain that one unless you have experienced it, but that is how I felt. A sense of freedom, calmness took over. During this time it just seemed the right thing to do to study hypnosis. it appeared to me that everything I had done in my life had led me to this point, and you know what it feels like when it just feels right.
That first day of my training felt like I was walking on air. I had actually found something I truly loved and wanted more. I had studied in the past but usually under duress, and never really being that interested in the subjects. This time was for real, I was going to make something of my life that I could be proud of.
It is one of those things that is obviously not a conscious thing, so we can be wary of what may happen when in hypnosis. The idea of being 'under' hypnosis can make people think they should be unconscious when in hypnosis and despite what you see when stage hypnotists get people into trance and they look as thought they are asleep or unconscious, it is not true, you are neither asleep or unconscious. The hypnotist may put the head down on the subject to make them look asleep, or the subject themselves may feel more comfortable putting their head in a sleep kind of position. I experienced stage hypnosis many many moons ago and I did think that I had to be asleep so went along with the suggestion.
Thing is, you just really feel relaxed but daydreamy like, or for some people they just listening to what is being said.
Is it that some people would like to feel unconscious, that they find life difficult and don't know how to make changes, so would like someone else to do it for them whilst they are unconscious?
Slimmers would often like to be put into an unconscious state for a few weeks and wake up again slim. And all because they don't really want to work at getting slim, same as working at solving your own problems is difficult.
I came into hypnosis purely by chance. Sometimes we have an illness that cannot be identified or diagnosed conventionally. That happened to me and I was getting a little more than fed up with n ot knowing what was wrong with me. Sure I had stress in my life, who doesn't, but i had coped before and could not understand why my body appeared to be letting me down, and without any obvious reason or cause. If there had been a reason, I could have taken medication and got well, and let the doctors sort me out. Now with no diagnosis, I had to start to think about what i could do to help myself.
I do like to face up to things in life, always have. I will never run away from conflict, although like most would rather have a easy life with less worry. So, I faced up to the fact that although I did not have some dreadful disease or terminal illness, I was still ill and needed some help.
Rather than just go to one person, I thought more holistically about my life and what I thought I needed the most first. If my body was not behaving well, then i must take responsibility and find out how it could work better. I went to a herbalist and that was the beginning of the change in my life. Little did I know that after detoxing and getting rid of anything in my body that may be causing problems, I would be embarking on a new career in my life, one that would prove to be the most fulfilling, rewarding and exciting.
It so happened that a leaflet from a book club came through the door and one of the books was about self-hypnosis. I ordered it straight away and when it arrived could not put it down. I wanted to know what it felt like to go into trance, how I could learn to relax, and that is what I did. I did see a hypnotherapist and sorted out all the baggage from the past, which then freed my mind. Hard to explain that one unless you have experienced it, but that is how I felt. A sense of freedom, calmness took over. During this time it just seemed the right thing to do to study hypnosis. it appeared to me that everything I had done in my life had led me to this point, and you know what it feels like when it just feels right.
That first day of my training felt like I was walking on air. I had actually found something I truly loved and wanted more. I had studied in the past but usually under duress, and never really being that interested in the subjects. This time was for real, I was going to make something of my life that I could be proud of.
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