I first heard Two Little Boys by Rolf Harris back in the 1960s. I was in hospital and it was playing on hospital radio. I was in a ward full of really old people and at 17, it's not the best place to be. I thought nothing of the song at all, but noticed that an elderly lady who could not move was crying.
Years later, after having my own sons, | realised that perhaps the song reminded her of her children, or maybe she went through the war and thought about people she had lost. Or perhaps she thought about the actual words and how we would not let down anyone we truly cared for.
Just last week Rolf Harris was on radio 4 extra, yes it probably is for old gits like me, but I like hearing Tony Hancock again and all the old comedy radio and the plays they put on. Well Rofl Harris said when he first heard the song, which was sung to him by the chap who wrote it and sang it to him in a tenor voice, Rolf could only wonder what on earth he would say to him as he first thought it not that good.
Then came the bit where the boys have gone to war and was is wounded, and the other saves him. It makes me tingle even typing it, and reminds me that there are people in our life who we would do anything for, no matter what was asked of us, and we know they would do the same for us.
I think it is called trust!
Wednesday, 27 June 2012
Friday, 22 June 2012
Well can you relax?
I blogged a while ago about relaxing, and I noticed that less people looked at that than any of the other postings.
I would naturally think that anyone looking at the blogs does know how to relax so there is no need to read it.
Wrong, and I am one of those people who really do need to learn how to relax. I realised recently that it had been a while since I had experienced hypnosis. It had also been too long since a dental check up that my dentist said what a nice surprise it was to see me. I had to admit that I had cancelled a couple of previous appointments because of work commitments, but when he said two years had passed I was shocked. Fortunately I had no problems, so breathed a sigh of relief.
Now, back to relaxation, and taking myself off to a very good hypnotherapist who I personally trained, I came to the conclusion that I should practice what I preach.
Life has been somewhat stressful recently what with two clinic moves in less than three months. (don't ask) So there I was sitting in the therapy chair and experiencing what I help others to experience each day.
What a tonic, I felt so woozy coming out of the session but slept so well. I am continuing with my therapy as it is doing me a power of good and I am certainly noticing the difference.
I wonder how many other therapists have therapy themselves. It could be mandatory for anyone who helps others receives therapy themselves at least one a year.
I am looking forward to my next session!
I would naturally think that anyone looking at the blogs does know how to relax so there is no need to read it.
Wrong, and I am one of those people who really do need to learn how to relax. I realised recently that it had been a while since I had experienced hypnosis. It had also been too long since a dental check up that my dentist said what a nice surprise it was to see me. I had to admit that I had cancelled a couple of previous appointments because of work commitments, but when he said two years had passed I was shocked. Fortunately I had no problems, so breathed a sigh of relief.
Now, back to relaxation, and taking myself off to a very good hypnotherapist who I personally trained, I came to the conclusion that I should practice what I preach.
Life has been somewhat stressful recently what with two clinic moves in less than three months. (don't ask) So there I was sitting in the therapy chair and experiencing what I help others to experience each day.
What a tonic, I felt so woozy coming out of the session but slept so well. I am continuing with my therapy as it is doing me a power of good and I am certainly noticing the difference.
I wonder how many other therapists have therapy themselves. It could be mandatory for anyone who helps others receives therapy themselves at least one a year.
I am looking forward to my next session!
Impostor syndrome
Do you ever feel as though someone is going to 'find you out'? An example would be that you are busy doing your job, but your internal voice is wondering what you are doing there, and that someone may come in and shout, 'hey you, get out of there'? You feel as though you are an impostor and that you should not be there doing that job.
I wonder if it all stems from not being good enough, or feeling as though you are not good enough. I also wonder, and I do a lot of wondering in my job, how you learned to think that way.
If this fits in with some of your thoughts about yourself ask a question or two of yourself.
Where did you learn to feel not good enough?
Is there any truth in what you are thinking?
Who told you that you were not good enough?
In what area of your life did they tell you were not good enough?
We all have times when we don't feel good enough, such as when we don't get that job, or someone else is picked to do something you wanted to do. Maybe at some point in your life someone has left you for someone else perhaps and it added to your negative thoughts.
Overcoming those thoughts?
Well wherever you are right now means that you have survived not being good enough at times and whatever job you are in means they picked you for your skills and abilities. And whoever you are with, or the friends you have means that they choose you to be friends with or want to be with because of you.
We can all go through life comparing ourselves with others, and easy to put ourselves down too quickly. Does it help us? Do we feel better having put ourselves down?
It never helps and only adds to reinforce more negativity.
Instead, be thankful for the people who you have in your life. Thankful for the job you have and all the material things you have. Tell yourself you deserve to have these things in life. Ahh, have I got you there? Do you deserve to have good things and people in your life? If you think you do not, now is the time to explore this sufficiently enough to let go of those old ways of thinking and move into new thought patterns
I wonder if it all stems from not being good enough, or feeling as though you are not good enough. I also wonder, and I do a lot of wondering in my job, how you learned to think that way.
If this fits in with some of your thoughts about yourself ask a question or two of yourself.
Where did you learn to feel not good enough?
Is there any truth in what you are thinking?
Who told you that you were not good enough?
In what area of your life did they tell you were not good enough?
We all have times when we don't feel good enough, such as when we don't get that job, or someone else is picked to do something you wanted to do. Maybe at some point in your life someone has left you for someone else perhaps and it added to your negative thoughts.
Overcoming those thoughts?
Well wherever you are right now means that you have survived not being good enough at times and whatever job you are in means they picked you for your skills and abilities. And whoever you are with, or the friends you have means that they choose you to be friends with or want to be with because of you.
We can all go through life comparing ourselves with others, and easy to put ourselves down too quickly. Does it help us? Do we feel better having put ourselves down?
It never helps and only adds to reinforce more negativity.
Instead, be thankful for the people who you have in your life. Thankful for the job you have and all the material things you have. Tell yourself you deserve to have these things in life. Ahh, have I got you there? Do you deserve to have good things and people in your life? If you think you do not, now is the time to explore this sufficiently enough to let go of those old ways of thinking and move into new thought patterns
Friday, 15 June 2012
Coaching
Some people like the idea of coaching rather than therapy. Its often the case that we don't need to deal with the past, and instead concentrate on the future. Coaching allows people to find their own resourcefulness and gives them direction.
I had been doing some coaching using NLP skills in Spain and now I am travelling to London once a month to train coaching and NLP to a company. Companies are keen to use training such as this to help their employees to become better at what they do and also to show that they do care about their staff.
I have found that the directors and managers value the group sessions they have because they have an opportunity to develop their management style.
NLP skills feature highly in my coaching training, and the difference language patterns make when selling is amazing.
NLP skills use the power of the unconscious and that in itself is an eye opener for many as we often think that we are operating consciously most of the time. To know that its more 90% unconscious and 10% conscious is mind blowing
I had been doing some coaching using NLP skills in Spain and now I am travelling to London once a month to train coaching and NLP to a company. Companies are keen to use training such as this to help their employees to become better at what they do and also to show that they do care about their staff.
I have found that the directors and managers value the group sessions they have because they have an opportunity to develop their management style.
NLP skills feature highly in my coaching training, and the difference language patterns make when selling is amazing.
NLP skills use the power of the unconscious and that in itself is an eye opener for many as we often think that we are operating consciously most of the time. To know that its more 90% unconscious and 10% conscious is mind blowing
Thursday, 7 June 2012
Getting over relationships
Some of us have difficulties in letting go of people in our life. We find it hard to move on away from those people. Friends or close relationships are not always made to stand the test of time. There are plenty of reasons why they don't last, and perhaps the simplest way of explaining it is because the energy has run out.
We are made up from energy so it stands to reason that we create energy in our relationships. It is usually explained as chemistry, but whatever it is, when it is there it is great and when it is gone it has gone, and you can find it almost impossible to get it back.
You cannot see the energy, but you just know it is not there. Maybe you get a flat feeling when you see them, and the buzz is just not there.
Simplest way of dealing with those problems is to let it go, and accept that it has gone. Remember the good times by all means, but make no effort to wish things could be different. They are not, and then was then as now is now.
With luck you will have some relationships that will last forever, no matter what happens. Talk can sometimes be cheap, and people say all kinds of things when you are in the relationship, but remember that time changes our thoughts and feelings.
Keep the energy you have with those people who are still in your life and appreciate them even more. Let go of the others, its not worth the time and effort to waste precious energy.
We are made up from energy so it stands to reason that we create energy in our relationships. It is usually explained as chemistry, but whatever it is, when it is there it is great and when it is gone it has gone, and you can find it almost impossible to get it back.
You cannot see the energy, but you just know it is not there. Maybe you get a flat feeling when you see them, and the buzz is just not there.
Simplest way of dealing with those problems is to let it go, and accept that it has gone. Remember the good times by all means, but make no effort to wish things could be different. They are not, and then was then as now is now.
With luck you will have some relationships that will last forever, no matter what happens. Talk can sometimes be cheap, and people say all kinds of things when you are in the relationship, but remember that time changes our thoughts and feelings.
Keep the energy you have with those people who are still in your life and appreciate them even more. Let go of the others, its not worth the time and effort to waste precious energy.
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