Confidence

How do you know when you lack confidence? It would be perfectly normal to be less than confident if you are doing something for the first time, but it is not always acceptable to constantly feel you lack confidence. and yet, you probably go through the day showing confidence in many areas of your life. The ability to get up, wash, dress and perhaps go to work takes confidence. It takes confidence to seek help for problems you cannot overcome yourself.

When people report they have less confidence than they would like, it usually means that the things they would like to be even more confident with are not obvious, or they get feelings in their body that make them feel nervous, and then the interpretation is they lack confidence.

Excitement can often be confused with anxiety or lack of confidence. If you were to do some sky diving, I feel sure you would probably experience, fear, anxiety, and for some excitement. That same adrenalin rush would go through your body.

So how do you become more confident? Changing the way you think for a start helps. New thought patterns create new behaviours, and we can learn by practicing how we speak to ourselves. You will probably find if you think you lack confidence, that you often speak negatively to yourself. You can even notice the difference when you speak positively t yourself how the feelings in your body change.