Impostor syndrome

Do you ever feel as though someone is going to 'find you out'? An example would be that you are busy doing your job, but your internal voice is wondering what you are doing there, and that someone may come in and shout, 'hey you, get out of there'? You feel as though you are an impostor and that you should not be there doing that job.

I wonder if it all stems from not being good enough, or feeling as though you are not good enough. I also wonder, and I do a lot of wondering in my job, how you learned to think that way.

If this fits in with some of your thoughts about yourself ask a question or two of yourself.

Where did you learn to feel not good enough?

Is there any truth in what you are thinking?

Who told you that you were not good enough?

In what area of your life did they tell you were not good enough?

We all have times when we don't feel good enough, such as when we don't get that job, or someone else is picked to do something you wanted to do. Maybe at some point in your life someone has left you for someone else perhaps and it added to your negative thoughts.

Overcoming those thoughts?

Well wherever you are right now means that you have survived not being good enough at times and whatever job you are in means they picked you for your skills and abilities. And whoever you are with, or the friends you have means that they choose you to be friends with or want to be with because of you.

We can all go through life comparing ourselves with others, and easy to put ourselves down too quickly. Does it help us? Do we feel better having put ourselves down?

It never helps and only adds to reinforce more negativity.

Instead, be thankful for the people who you have in your life. Thankful for the job you have and all the material things you have. Tell yourself you deserve to have these things in life. Ahh, have I got you there? Do you deserve to have good things and people in your life? If you think you do not, now is the time to explore this sufficiently enough to let go of those old ways of thinking and move into new thought patterns