Getting over past friendships

Most people like to hold on to friendships. Maybe because they don't like to admit failure, or because they have to think about what went wrong and if it was their fault. Here are a few ideas to help you to come to terms with relationships that no longer work. Does the friendship leave you feeling energised or drained? Do you feel that the friend let you down or you let them down often? Do you feel that you give far more than they do for you? Have you often said that you wonder why you keep the relationship going? Are you able to communicate with them just as you would like to? Some friendships have a sell by date. It is normal for them and you to move on. We keep on changing our beliefs and values, so therefore you may begin to think differently and therefore the friend may not agree with your new beliefs. If someone has behaved really badly towards you, are you always hoping that they will go back to the way they were behaving before? If so, you are in for disappointment because they are probably not going to return to how they felt before. There is little consolation in remembering what you have done for the friend, either with gifts or emotional support. Just remember the person with all the good things they did in the past and then let them go. As soon as you do this and stop being bitter or angry you will feel better inside. You will get a softer feeling inside and then feel more comfortable. Keep doing this until you no longer feel angry or upset. Next, think about the friends you do have. It is time to nurture them and be glad of them. Concentrate on them and be happy that you have some people in your life that do care for you. Some friendships are meant for life, others are like ships that pass in the night. No matter what has happened, you will have learned from them in some way. Good friendships are like stars. You can't always see them but you know that they are there.