Toxic people

Have you ever thought of some people being toxic? you may feel as if you are being poisoned by their attitude, and they leave you with an unpleasant feeling, or maybe being drained by them.

Sadly some people can have a really negative effect on us, and it can take time to re-charge ourselves once we have been in their company. What do you do about it, especially if it is a relative, close friend or even a boss? In the case of relatives or friends, it may be that you can distance yourself from them a little, or just see them for short periods of time. With a boss it may be more difficult unless you quit your job, as you may have to see your boss each day. What are the usual causes of people being toxic towards you?

Being negative about everything you do or achieve

Finding more faults with you than positive attributes

Intuitively knowing they don't share your successes, and they look positively miffed when you are successful

Only really showing support when you are going through rough patches (this may be because it makes them feel better about their own lives)

You need to de-toxify yourself! You can't take medicine or drink lots of water, as it will not make these people go away or diminish their effect on you.

What you can do is this:

Have a more positive belief about yourself

Surround yourself with positive people who you know genuinely care about you and encourage you

Build an imaginary glass screen around yourself when you are in their company. never allow their negativity get through this screen. Keep it all outside of you, so that you never internalise their negativity.

Sometimes, if possible, it is better to cast these people adrift and concentrate on the positive people in your life